Mish.. Bobbi, Kat.. thanks for your good wishes, its a big weekend I think too! Bobbi you are right, Priya is a wonderful writer, she is quite unique on the internet and it is meant to be very healing on Sunday particularly and its also a New Moon. There are reasons why I wanted to stay over with him to be there for that, but I didnt go into it here.
Wlaking Back.. He is NOT paying my credit card. I am paying another which was our joint one and I also paid our rent for over a year before he left me, which cost me �10,000, but I never asked for a penny back. Me and him have a kind of unspoken agreement about money where its swings and roundabouts between us (we own several properties).
I didnt leave everything to the last minute, I am doing a degree course (sculpture) and it ends in a week.. its natural to be flat out at this juncture, EVERYONE at college has been doing 10 hour days, as he was for his Masters and yes, as his partner then I did all the shopping and cooking whilst he revised. But I dont expect him to do that for me, as he is not yet my partner. Just because I am honest about wishing things were 'normal' and he were here supporting me at this last hurdle, does not mean I need him to be or expect him to be. Its just indicative that things are not back to normal (and wont be for a long time).
I dont need a man to be whole,I CHOOSE to have my ex back, as many of us here are trying to do, because I love him. Because he adds something to my life. Because he is a positive, joyful presence, NOT because I need him.
Jody is there to talk to as a therapist, but she IS American and there is a difference in how Americans and English people approach dating. I have found her very useful, but I dont think there is any harm in questioning some of the things she says, I am not a lemming.
Neaj, I wasnt referring to the comments about staying over... I meant a general approach to me and remarks made here and on others threads and I have repeatedly asked you to stop jabbing away at me, but you wont stop it. What else can I do? As for 8 years, clearly I was not implying that you posted for the whole 8 years.. I can see that this is your community, you perhaps feel safe here, or amongst kindred spirits, as you are not DBing anyone, but you continue posting to others. I made no judgement about that, simply that I genuinely feel that perhaps you need more healing over losing your H. I am not trying to hurt your feelings by saying that to you. If you dont feel as if you do, then I stand corrected and apologise.
