Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

[peacetoday]

saw XH today at work
he shared some work problem
I listened and validated with support
It was brief as I had a lot of work to so and D 13 was with me
He visited kids tonight
I left immediately as I had plans
nothing phases my Xh
he doesnt seem to care
he wants to keep the R with his kids
but he seems to cut the visit shorter so he can get home (to OW)
I spoke with friends today
no one has met OW
XH not calling back old friends
It is so hard to read..you never know what has really happened to WAS they just seem like their attention cna committment has shifted to new person and new life
they seem to be able to justify their choices
I dont know how he does it
sometimes he appears so normal, not depressed angry or withdrawn yet he still choses her over me

I wonder how the MLCER keeps the R going with OW?
can it be good?
do they really love eachother?
It started as a lie
kept as a secret
his friends still dont know her
the kids never met her
they blew through thousands of dollars together leaving XH in huge debt.
He keeps in little tough with any of our old friends (they who were his best friends)
peace