FF, I didn't have your experience but I will give you a virtual hug. That is just a horrible situation. My H was a pretty irresponsible father at first but is doing better now. It's not great but continues to improve. I am not sure how I would feel if he did show sufficient interest in returning.
"he denies this but they remember it"
{{{hugs}}} These are terrible things for kids to hear. It seems that trying to find a way to help them deal with this would be most important possible thing.
It would not surprise me if he resurfaces at some point and you may need to consider how you would deal with it.
I would agree that you need to see about CS.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
