I asked him "When was the last time you saw her" back in December and again in March when I was looking at the phone records. Both times, he said not since it was over. That's why I'm so confused as to why I discovered he did see her in April (yes, 2008). I do believe it is over, but the problem I'm now having is figuring out if he's really being truthful. He had the chance twice to come clean. He's been transparent as far as I know. So, why lie about this? I wasn't being accusatory. When I matched the phone calls and the calendar, I said something like, "It looks to me like you called her on the phone and left a message to have dinner, confirmed the plans on this date, called her as you were leaving work, and again as you were about to arrive at the restaurant. Then, you called home when you were on your way home. If my version isn't the truth, then can you please give me the right story because I'd like to get it right in my head." He told me he didn't meet her for dinner and had no idea why he would have been calling her. It didn't add up, but I wanted to move on, so put it aside. I thought I could trust him again, but now I don't know.
He acts remorseful and had never blamed me for this at all. He truly is doing all of the right things, so why lie about this unless... If we're going to make it as a couple, then I want to know that there are no more lies between us. That is why I'm so tempted to call OW. To get her timeline. If it matches with his, then it will be easier to move on. If he's rewriting history, then I'm not doing the right thing by staying.
