People said things to me about my ex, like, could you ever trust him again and what if he leaves again? Its challenging to be asked that, but I felt that this isnt a pattern for him, it was a crisis, an age thing, post bereavement, MLC, whatver thing. But a phase. 2 years all the same, but not something I intuitively feel is likely to be repeated.. or not for many many years (I cant theorise much more than that, who knows what will happen in 10 or 15 years?). But for now, my intuition told me Helen was history and we will be ok in the relatively long term abd thats enough for me.
I guess when I look at you and Dan.. he KNOWS that to be unfaithful again, one night stand, strip joints, whatever is NOT an option now. You want fidelity and nothing less, not even going to watch strippers.
Do you think that Dan feels able to live up to that expectation and more to the point, what do you feel the chances are of Dan remaining faithful for the rest of your M lives.. even if he does talk to the pastor and 'comes back'?
And I'm not being divisive in asking you that, because I honestly dont know, I just wondered if you had really thought about the likelihood of Dan being faithful for the next 30+ years, considering thats the conditions under which you would continue your M life. What does your intuition tell you? Go with that!
