It has ben almost 6 months since learning about the A which happened over a year an a half ago. Today, I discovered he lied to me. Here's the situation:
A few months ago, I was looking at our cell phone records and found out he called her in April of 2008 even though he told me he hadn't seen or spoken with her since ending it in 2007. When I saw the records, I told him it looked like he had dinner with her in April because of the way the calls had been placed. Plus he had a "personal appointment" on his calendar for that evening. For where I was sitting, it looked like they had dinner together.
He assured me they did not. When I asked him about the phone number, he said he didn't know it. I told him it was hers and asked why he had called her. He claimed he didn't know why he would have been calling her and it must have been work related if there was even a phone call to her. There are only 4 calls on the phone record but he has two phones. The other is a work phone, so I don't have access to the records. I decided to believe him. He said that there was an event both of them were supposed to be at around the same time, but they both knew one of them should bow out, so she didn't attend.
So, I just put this aside and have been working at repairing our relationship. He's been so transparent - or so I thought. Today, I discovered an email he sent to her and her collegue on April 15 which said "Thank you for dinner last night...." Truly, it sounds like it was an innocent meeting, but I'm wondering why he didn't come clean when I told him what I thought happened and now I have proof of that. I am so close to calling her (I never have contacted her) just to find out her story to see if I have been given the full story or not. This really makes me wonder if it will put a wedge into our relationship. I know contacting the OW is a no-no, but I truly want to find out her timeline of their relationship. I really don't want to find out that I've been duped again.
