So you have really don't have anything that requires contact at all...do you? I'd be sure that everything...absolutely everything (insurance) is separate so that you are basically divorced. I wouldn't bother with even trying to touch base with her...she knows why you want to, because you're still hung up on her. Start rediscovering your single life. Enjoy yourself. Put her on the back burner. If she calls, be more like she is to you, noncommital and not that engaged in the relationship.

Personally, I think she probably has someone else. You can either move on with your life as though you are already divorced, or start the paperwork rolling yourself. Get out there...look around. At least be somewhere that you can see other fish in the sea, even if you aren't ready to fish. It helps to realize that you don't have to sit in limbo waiting for her to do something about the marriage. And oh yeah, if she mentions the marriage again, don't get into a discussion of it with her. Don't rise to the bait if she dangles anything about trying again. I'd imagine she gets in touch with you when things are rocky with some other guy, or he's otherwise not in touch with her. You are probably her back up plan...which is why she hasn't filed papers yet.

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer