Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Update:
So I'm dealing with new stuff. H keeps saying he feels like an idiot(doesn't get specific about what, but I am guessing the whole A/OW thing)- I'm hoping he doesn't run back in the tunnel now that he has a more sane perspective and seems to come out of his OW fog...

He is very sad about how our girls are disconnected from him. I think that will take consistent effort on his part and time(anyone have experience with this?).

H says he wants to do smething with me this weekend..I worry that is spending time with me because there is no one else and he has stated he doesn't like being in his apartment because its lonely. H has to decide where to move in the next 6 weeks as his lease is up. I did offer that he could move home but that if he did I would expect that he would make a committment to work on the marriage. I know that may have been poor DBing, but the reality is, if he moves back and then moves out again it would devastate not just me, but our daughters. He has thought about moving home but is worried it would be awkward and I agreed it would be a bit awkward until we all readjusted, and the girls were sure he was staying.

I guess I need to read up more about piecing. I'm not sure we are there yet-it seems so fast compared to other people's situations.. I have no expectations and in fact most of the time I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak. H hasn't said anything directly about wanting to be with me...I just seem to be a friend and sounding board that he desperately needs. I hope I'm not being used...