WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

You will make progress if you accept you are confused about your W, and that you can not figure it out right now. It isn't necessary to give up hope, just keep it in check. Don't act like my dog that can get excited at the least little sound of my voice. If you see a positive, calmly make note of the positive, but don't go overboard with the reaction.

Thanks for the 2x4. Seems like I really lost focus when I thought I caught a glimmer of hope in last Friday's call.

I'm going to back to what I was doing before. It seemed to go better than what I was doing the past week.

Before I was Dark/Dim when I was not around her. I would only answer any text/email/voice mail if there was a clear question. And then it was a relatively short question. If she would try to chit chat about her day, I would let her talk for about a minute before politely excusing myself and saying good bye.

When we are together doing family stuff together, I will try to be attentive, warm, caring towards her, but my priority will be to enjoy my time with the kids and enjoy the moment/experience.

I will stop the physical touches again - I resumed them when she said that I could put my arm around her during the baseball game 2 Fridays ago (she brought it up, I didn't even consider it).

Seems like the past week or so has been a failed "experiment" based on the signals I had gotten during the baseball game, as well as some phone calls. Perhaps it was too much, too fast and she's retreating. I don't know, and will not spend any more time figuring out what happened.