Hello all.....haven't been here in a while

[mishka422]

Kris,

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. What a horrible tragedy for your family to go through. Although I can't begin to grasp the depth of your sorrow, I can understand the automatic craving for comfort and solace. Your xh was your shoulder for a very long time and would be the person you are most like to turn to. It will be difficult to separate that feeling for a long time I'm sure.

Regarding what you found while going through your brother's things, is not something you could talk to your mother about? Honestly, when your D was final, your xh was no longer involved in your life or your brother's. He might be able to lend an ear but he's no longer invested in your life. It's so very hard to let that go, but you know you need to for your own wellbeing, right?

Personally, I have no idea how you go about doing that but I will pray that you are able to sooner than later.

Much love to you Kris. I've been thinking and wondering about you. No wonder God put you on my heart. My sympathies are with you.