mdoodles, step away for a while. I think things got a bit out of control here. I think you two are making strong threats in anger. Believe me when I say I know this from experience. Emotions are flying. Drop the rope and step away. I'm not so sure that your H is the only one wrong here. I think emotions just got out of hand and one person acted and the other reacted etc. If you keep pushing the arguments today it will continue and you both will say things you don't mean. Detach for today. Stop talking to him. Bad days bad weeks even doesn't have to mean divorce. This is a bad season and you need to leave it alone. Stop pushing a resolution. Pull back for a while - it will all take time. I'm still feeling you need to use some LRTs here and pull back and detach.
