You will make progress if you accept you are confused about your W, and that you can not figure it out right now. It isn't necessary to give up hope, just keep it in check. Don't act like my dog that can get excited at the least little sound of my voice. If you see a positive, calmly make note of the positive, but don't go overboard with the reaction.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.