25 "AK, VERY interesting comment...you seem to regret not having a degree or maybe I hear envy there, and you resented H for it and how it affects your earning ability today and makes you feel stuck...although I've told you that you offer an employer a lot, you ASSUME you won't be able to earn as much from an employer b/c you lack the credential which you also "disdain"??...and yet...you lament the lack thereof. What? Ak, Geez honey you are filled with some serious fears and regrets and self doubts and resentments all rolled into a big ball. And I don't know what or how your h is, or fits into that but I look so forward to hearing about your life and happiness WITHOUT him even if you were to stay together...meaning I'd love to see you as yourself = without your baggage added on, and see what the unfettered AK can do!"
LOL, I knew when I wrote that, it was a little off. My disdain for formal education came after my bio-dad's death. I got a very Carpe Diem attitude but with a negative twist. I knew how fleeting life was and chose to focus on what I liked and skip the rest, thus the As and Fs co-existing on my report card (my parents-mom and step-dad had fun with that).
Presently, I don't actually believe in regrets but I see the value in education and in having a degree and yes, it feels like a major hinderance when sending a resume cold. However, when I sit across from someone and can sell myself, I usually can make a good impression.
I do not "disdain" the credential nor do I regret...I was referring to the past when I was young and HAD to go to school.
