FF: I have been reading your thread, and you are stuck.
I have been reading this book by John Gray called Venus and Mars: Starting Over. I would recommend this book to you.
Gray states that many people have a difficult time moving on because they do not face the four stages of grief. We have all heard different stages of grief, and there are four, five, six, thirty two, four hundred and fifty eight. Mostly Gray is trying to get us, as the wounded, to confront the anger, resentment, sorry, and sadness. Men tend to avoid the sorrow, women tend to avoid the anger.
Go get this book. You have to heal. You can blame your H for many things, but your pain is your own. This book teaches you how to own it, deal with it, and get past it.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..