he is back, i think

[bluerain]

Mdoodles, you have to detach. Do what worked before. I applaud you for telling him to call the lawyer, you dont want this, so you dont pursue it. And as far as what you have shown your son, you have shown him a valuable committment to family, and your M, you have tried to save this M, and that is an excellent thing to show him.

You are absolutely right when you say that he needs to find the happiness for himself. Im not even sure that I would phrase it that way, he needs to learn to be happy. Thats not something that you can do for him, no matter how much you try. Drop the rope! Have you read the DBing books? Maybe now is a good time to leave him alone and reread them.

I cant emphasize enough that DBing made me a stronger person, more able to cope. And it made me a better Wife too. Whether I get to be a better W in this M, or my next. Im so sorry that things have taken this turn, its such a roller coaster. Can you take your son away for a weekend? Or maybe just an afternoon? Get away from the grumpy gus! Misery loves company and he will do his best to drag you down too.

You ARE too pretty for this (not that I would personally know), and You ARE too good of a person for this. He is being the bad person, dont let him force you to take action that you cant be proud of.

(((Mdoodles)))