Desperate for direction

[Doingitright]

You are right. I have to keep the big goal in mind. It is hard to keep having this person enter into our lives. It prevents things from moving forward and is a constant irritation for me.

The relapses cause her pain as well. W says she "feels sick that she did what she did". The lapses are usually emails or text messages to OM.

W asked for me to please check her cell phone, facebook and all her email accounts. She gave me the passwords. W said that would help her. W said the thought that at any time I can see what she has sent would help keep her honest and begin to build our trust together again. I said I did not want to have them but she is still insisting. I have not taken them yet. What are anyone's thoughts on this?