I hear you. It's hard I know. That's why I think you need to refocus on you right now. You've worked too hard. My H actually did tell me that - I was trying too hard. And he's right. Stop busting your tush. Remember DB is about taking back control of your life and emotional strength.
FYI, personally I think DB has its place in almost every aspect of life. It's not about doing things to keep the marriage its about coping better with your situation. GALing really gets you feeling better and revived. You need a break it sounds like to me.
And especially if he acting like he doesn't want to save the M, then you stop trying for now.
Isn't it funny when we do so much and get so little back. My H lived like a king with me taking care of everything.
Stay strong, you will get through this. Piecing is hard.
