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[antlers]

Please tell me just what it entails to 'drop the rope'?

Imagine pulling with all your might on a rope tied to a elephant's leg that doesn't want to move. Tension on the rope, the elephant's getting torqued, and you are wasting all your energy and getting no results. The elephant just ain't moving. So why keep pulling on the rope?
The goal is to get the elephant to move. Release all the tension between you and the elephant. Catch your breathe and try something different. The elephant is not going to move just because you are trying with all your strength, want it to and would love it to. The elephant moves when it wants to. Drop the rope. Do something for yourself and see if the elephant gets interested enough to check it out. Be a elephant whisperer :D!
You do what is healthy and productive for you.
Here is a list to start on:

I so much want to be strong, secure, powerful, assertive, and ambitious again.

You can handle it.
Cheers

That's a great analogy Coach! Thanks.


I intend to do things that are healthy and productive for me...and I think it's a good list to work on too!