Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

[Sanderika]

Good Morning alive....

You ask me "How can I stop it" (RE: OW seeing my son)

My H has been with the same OW for 3+ years.

#1 My H has not initiated a meeting yet? It's Curious Huh?
#2 My son does not want to meet her. He will get what he
wants.
#3 In my sitch the OW is a classic example. OMG, the
stories I could tell about her.

I have never ever made contact with the OW. She on the other hand views me as some sort of threat. She makes contact with me
and she verbally abuses me, telling me in swears to stay away from her boyfriend even in front of son once. For 44 she is very high school. I have proof of this and H knows about it. My L knows about it and if need be the judge will know about it. Let's just say H won't push it either. He knows, with my proof, I can and will keep son away from OW should their R continue.

I have kept a journal with photos and other goodies in great detail during this time and I am not sorry I had the foresight to do so. I highly recommend it to all LBS for the duration of the situation and beyond if necessary.

In my case the OW is "no lady", you all know the type. Had she been someone different in personality and reputation I may not have gone to the extremes I have to gather and record information I can use when I need to.

I view every situation as different. The people and the stories have such wide variances and personality details. You need to know what and who you are dealing with and the sooner the better. It is all about protecting yourself and your kids when found in one of the situations.

I am not afraid anymore and I will use my ammo if I am pushed.....

Sanderika