Ali, Not sure why I get singled out but just to recap, I actually suggested not sleeping over once on this thread as did: Istherehope, Jeff also said not to stay over, Simon said,take it really really really slowly and don't put it on a plate for him, Refuse TL, also said hang back let him wriggle and mentioned about x turning into the hunter when he is not pursued(which was why I made the comment about him not having much time to be the hunter. So all the men seem to have said the same as me. Plus DB coach Jody. I am not judging anyone, we each have our own moral codes of conduct. I do have two sons and I know what they say about girls and what their friends say about girls who offer it up on a plate.
Your situation is your situation and you will deal with it as you see fit. Strange that Jodies advice was the best thing since sliced bread when it agrees with you yet not when she tells you otherwise, but you know best, this is your x.
I don't recall you posting about you staying over several times last summer,I thought you didn't know where he lived. My mistake. That would have been when he was with Helen I take it. Anyway,I probably should have let the post go,in DB style so I will just shut up. I do agree that it is rare to get a 2nd chance so I wish you well with it.
All situations are so different, yet so the same to a large extent, no one size fits all solutions, only the person (s) involved know how to handle it. We (other posters) can only give opinions,advice,help and support.A few like BND have had X's return, most of us have not. Bottom line is it is your choice. Hope the back is better btw.
