Beyond Surviving- Living Life Again

[Loving_Life]

Trixi, thanks for the post- hope you're good, thanks for checking in on me! Things are moving forward fast for me. Moved into a new townhouse that I love, adopted a sweet dog and have been pretty active, getting out and doing new things. I'm having a lot of fun going to new events, exploring my new city, etc. My new job is decent and pretty low stress (major blessing, I know!) My life is better than it was, I absolutely can't deny it. Maybe I can actually be thankful in ways that I got out of the situation w. X. Yes, the fact that my M turned out like it did is unfortunate, but how X treated me and how we lived was really poor and I am doing way better on my own in a new place. X has called a few times, making excuses about not refinancing the house yet, complaining and trying to get me to help him out. Nope, he has to take care of himself and be responsible for once instead of trying to make things my problem. Especially since we are D and I'm 2,000 miles away- hello! But somehow he thinks I should be making long distance phone calls to help him straighten out some problem with the escrow account on the house (he was granted the house in our D and he's supposed to be refinancing). I was firm and told him no, it's his responsibility now. Part of me wonders if he just wanted to hear my voice. The reasons he calls are kind of lame. It's like he just wants to whine and then ask me a few questions about my life, and then see if I'll do things for him. Sorry, but I'm done with that now. I'm not his fix-it all punching bag lady anymore. The one who he thinks he doesn't need. Yes, I'm getting past this and coming out brighter. He was so negative, rude, irresponsible and to top it off didn't believe in a clean environment or personal hygiene. When I think back on the conditions I lived in with him, it was pretty undesirable. Smoke, dirt, rodent problems, bad neighborhood we were in. The entire situation had problems. It is such a refreshing, beautiful feeling to live in a nice, clean, pretty home with a peaceful ambiance surrounding me. I live in a nice neighborhood again(something that I have not had in years) I always thought I would be lonely living alone, but I'm pretty happy here. Especially since I got my new pup. He's such a sweet buddy. I'm setting up my art studio this weekend and will be starting up fun arts/crafts projects again soon. Finally I feel the light at the end of the tunnel starting to shine on me