Imagine if you were 65 and your husband did this to you. Where would you go, what would you do, how desperate would you be thinking that you won't have anyone because you're not going to meet someone at 65 years old......
sounds kind of desperate eh? But guess what ... you're not. In some ways you are getting a gift. If you look at your life and say wow, I should do this, or I didn't know I had drifted into being like this, or I not the same strong person I use to be....
Imagine if you were given a chance to look at yourself and think I never once read a book about how to make a better realtionship, like say "His Needs/Her Needs" and after reading that you had at least one tool now to use to strengthen your realtionships?
And now at the young age of 35 you are able to be made aware of this and you have a plan to better yourself, and you know there are tools out there that you could have seen.
Don't you think you are going to be so much better off? Don't you think that your next realtionship will have a much better chance of succeeding and taking you into the future where you want to be? And have you looked back at your first post where you talked about a husband that was never going to talk to you but now is calling you and showing concern for your life? Maybe that realtionship is going to be a new one with him.
But maybe in the near future you are going to look at this and say wow... it hurt but what an opprotunity I was given?
Orchid, there are hundreds and hundreds of people out there looking for someone they think is special. You'll get to where you want to be...
Quite frankly I would think you want to be with the guy who wants to help quiz you (that's caring) not the guy that wants to lecture you for 1.5 hours (that's my dad, twenty some years ago).
But if he's talking to you now... you're moving in the right direction. Listen to the people like PH...they know what they are talking about from experience.
Get to a point where you are strong and your relationship is one of equals....
WE'RE going to be great! Just looking at it from the wrong angle. That tends to happen when the rug is yanked out from under you
