WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[Travis]

Listen to everyone here. I wish I would have found this site sooner, but I believe it's too late and I'm only two months in on my end (don't know how long WAW has really been in this position). I look back to 03/11, the day of the bomb/OM. I begged, pleaded, cried, everything to get her back. Decided to back off, but that would only last a couple days at most.
I found this site and now I look back and, for the short periods of time I was doing the things advised here without even being here, she was receptive. I told her to really think about if our R was worth giving up, and she came home that night and said she didn't think it was. Of course, me being me, I rushed right back in trying to be "us" again immediately, and the wall came up and it all started again.
I made a lot of mistakes along the way and now she is gone. I still didn't do anything wrong except love her too much, but pushing her is definitely not the way to go. Make her come to you. Standing your ground is not wrong, but don't make demands. If you really want your wife back, give her the space and stand all you can, but you have to respect yourself as well.
None of us are in a good spot here, or we wouldn't even be here, but there is good advice. I only wish I would've found this sooner. When you are the one going through it you feel as if you're on an island.
You are not on an island. As you now know, many of us are going through this. Do what you know is right and if she still leaves, at least you know you gave it your best shot. Just slow down and let it come. The more you pursue it, sometimes, the farther away it goes. Good luck to you, I wish you the best.