WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

It takes 'em a month or more just to get the logistics of moving taken care of...like utilities, furniture, etc...and getting used to living on their own. I think these things take much, much more time than we would like. It's not really realistic to expect things to start turning around so soon. Mine's been out of the house for 3 months now, and the amount of anger that she still has is something to behold. She put up with me for years, and it's unrealistic for me to expect anything positive to happen for a long, long time...if it ever does.

Antlers,

I do agree with you. My WAW friend that I've been talking to about my situation said that I should wait 4-6 months before even talking about trying to reconnect. She said that both times she left, she spent that long just getting everything set up and having the initial "freedom thrill" wear off. She did say after the first 4 weeks, she did get all emotional from the initial shock after the first month or so for a couple days (the first month was the busiest getting setup).

I don't think that my wife will admit that she was angry, but keeps saying that she feels hurt, cheated, etc, that our marriage was such a neglectful one.

I know it's not realistic to expect anything hugely positive this early, but I was just looking for some small sign/clue. I know I just need to prepare myself and my life and my boys that she's not coming back. That way if she does, it could be gravy. I just hope I'm not eating lasagna at that time..... if it ever happens...