My guess is he is now sober and that leaves him with alot of emotion, frustration, and decisions he could just drink away before. Now he has to deal with it and its probably not fun. The rest of us do it unassisted by a bottle but that has been his crutch for so long.
WOW you don't need my help anymore you hit the nail on the head.
He has NO IDEA what to do with the emotions BUT the good thing is he isn't resorting to drinking to wash them away. He knows he has to deal and he's scared, so it's easier to push EVERYTHING on you.
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I reminded him that the future was mostly up to him - that he either figures out how to spend time with me or not.
PERFECT ANSWER...Good for you.
Here's the things he has YEARS of emotions to deal with all at once and it's hard VERY hard. It's hard to explain but once you stop using emotions come hard and fast the A has no idea what to do with them. I can't tell you how many times I would just bread down crying at certain COMMERCIALS really commercials, how sad is that. I would bet your H is the same way, maybe not with commercials but I think you get the point :).
Once again I think you are dealing with him great and healthy for both of you.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
