Finally Fighting FOR Him

[Cautious]

Thank you for your support SmileysPerson. I feel a lot more welcome than I thought I would be.

The state of things, as far as he has told me thus far is that if we made it to a stage where we were friends, he would consider getting back together, but he doesn't see that happening at the moment.

We've been getting along fairly well lately, but I have no idea what is going on in his life, nor does he know what's going on in mine unless it affects our son.

Even when it comes to S4, he doesn't tell me a whole lot about what's going on when S4 is visiting. Let me back up a bit... my son is starting to act out - crying, hitting, temper tantrums, deep sadness, etc. and when I tried to discuss this behavior change with H, he mentioned that the same is happening at his house. While we were discussing it, however, it seems that it's more of a H said no, so S is crying over not getting his way. Over here, however, it's definitely not just an issue of I said no to something. He will have a tantrum or crying spell out of the blue. But not knowing that there were tantrum problems going on over at H's house, I felt like I couldn't make a fair assessment to S's therapist (had to hire one because of the radical behavior changes).

Additionally, when I tried to speak to H last weekend about the changes (dramatic change started Friday night), the phone call went from uninterested to angry on H's end. H was at a party/gathering of some sort, so I assumed that he was paying more attention to those there than the phone call.

I can't just not talk to him about issues with S, but I feel it's unfair for him to want to take S every other weekend and a couple days a week when he's uninterested in what S is doing when H isn't around... How will he properly care for him if he's uninformed?

I really can't figure him out. He wants to have S, but refuses to talk to me about S.