Divorce looming #13

[PMA_Baby!]

I guess the best thing for me to do is just leave her alone.
Kevin

YAAAAA!!!! THINK!!!!! I too read that somewhere. Come on dawg!!! Use that noodle... Anything else is putting PRESSURE on her.....

[K4D]

I am taking my girls to get swim suits tonite. They keep wanting to go to the pool.

I get to have them through monday since it is a holiday weekend. I am trying to line up a few things to do with them to make the weekend enjoyable.

I am still trying to make friends to help keep me going.

Kevin

[K4D]

Maybe if I really leave my W alone and DB hardcore I can win my W back with some time. It looks bleak.

But anything is possible.

Kevin

[MrBond]

That should have been your emphasis in the first place.

Did you ever look into C yet? I think that's the biggest thing you have to do right now.

[ppenton]

Kevin, you still need to do major work on yourself before you can even think about W or your previous M. Get to IC or find a pastor/priest/deacon etc...someone to talk with a doctor even. You need to work on yourself and stop worrying about saving your M or getting W back as its NOT going to happen now or the near future.

[25yearsmlc]

Maybe if I really leave my W alone and DB hardcore I can win my W back with some time. It looks bleak.
OR MAYBE YOU CAN LEARN TO LIVE LIKE AN ADULT AND NOT NEED ANYONE ELSE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS, LET ALONE SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOU LIKE CRAP...DBing HARDCORE....NEVER BEEN DONE BY YOU BEFORE....SO WHY NOW????OR MAYBE YOU CAN LEARN TO BE HEALTHY. HOW ABOUT THAT??? OR MAYBE YOU CAN LEARN TO FOLLOW THROUGH FOR 3 DAYS ON SOMETHING DIFFICULT---...ANYTHING!! JUST FOLLOW THROUGH, BUT WAIT, THAT WOULD MEAN DBing "HARDCORE" WHICH YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO DO B/C....'it's hard"....

But anything is possible.

MAYBE KEVIN, MAYBE. BUT I'M STARTING TO DOUBT THAT. I DOUBT THAT YOU WILL CHANGE OR GET IT, NO MATTER WHAT I SAY OR HOW I SAY IT OR HOW MANY TIMES I SAY IT....THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER...THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER. THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER. THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER. THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER. THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER.


THIS IS ABOUT YOU. THIS IS ABOUT YOU. THIS IS ABOUT YOU. THIS IS ABOUT YOU.
LEARNING TO LIVE A LIFE WORTH LIVING, WITHOUT HER!!!!!!!!!!!! AND BEING JUST FINE!!!!!!!! LIKE THE REST OF THE WORLD....
Kevin

Kevin, you need more help than we can give you. Read, get c or t and meds and do what it takes to get well.


I'm not helping you nearly enough for this amount of time but that is not to say that others should not post here anymore. It's just that this dynamic is not good for me. And it isn't much good for you either. I know others who say I help them by posting to you, but seeing you write this type of weak, juvenile "stuff" at this point in the process is just depressing as hell to me. You say you want your wife and it makes no sense to 1) want HER as she is, and 2) to say it NOW under these circumstances.

It's UNwell Kevin. You are not healthy. You need help. Please please get help.

j-

[davidswife]

What 25 said.

[volleydog]

Maybe if I really leave my W alone and DB hardcore I can win my W back with some time. It looks bleak.

But anything is possible.

If this is what you really think then you have no idea what db CAN be about...good luck to you.

You know what kev you have someone like 25 giving you GREAT advice and you just ignore it because what it's hard...NO SH!T...You don't get it what EVERYONE has been trying to tell you is to help you get through the hard part FASTER...

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink...We all just want you to take a SIP.

[K4D]

I kind of feel like I am making some progress. I am getting my place set up. My kids and I are having a good time together. We went swimming together tonite. I contacted a financial advisor today. I'm learning my job. I'm going to a meetup group saturday afternoon. I've got Sunday plans also. Tomorrow night is movie night for me and the kids. I ordered 2 books to study.

Ok. I don't have insurance for counseling right now or meds. But I am talking to a senior minister who lives across the street from where W lives.

Granted I worry incessantly about some things. The future inparticular. But I am trying to get that under control. I am actually pretty relaxed after swimming tonite.

Things are coming along though. I just still think about W to much. Next week will be a real challenge for me. I am already trying to book up my nights so that I am staying busy.

Kevin

[MrBond]

Aside from the keeping busy, I think everyone is pressing for you to talk to a C or T to help your self-esteem issues.

Maybe at the very least if you started reading some self-help books about self-esteem that might get you started.