But Nathan's counselor gave me a guide for parents on handling the kids during a divorce and it said the best way when possible was to have both parents there and be honest about the reason for the divorce. I will not mention the affair as it has (I think) been over for quite some time. But the reason is that Dan has made the choice, and I won't share ownership of that choice. Period.
I could not agree more, BBJ. When my W and I have "the talk" with our girls, I will refuse to sit there and lie to them with the some lame story of "Mommy and Daddy don't love each other anymore and think it's best that we divorce, yada - yada - yada". I won't air all the dirty laundry, but I'm not going to sit there and tell them that I want a divorce when it's not true.
