Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Hi D,
Things have changed quickly-very down and up..kind of scares me b/c I wonder if this is real.

I was expecting and dreading this to take many more months and/or years. But my H doesn't follow all of the MLC behaviors, but definitely many. Maybe therapy and antidepressants helped things, although I don't think H is any less depressed.

The divorce thing threw me. Even though H says the OW wasn't the reason for him leaving and for our relationship failing, it does seem related to him asking for a divorce. He sees it as ironic that the day his lawyer got his retainer for a divorce, the OW broke up with him..The few details he's given me about OW over the last few days definitely give validity to the idea we have here that the OP is a bit nutty/needy/crazy...

In any case, H has opened up since asking for a D and continues to. So that is all good. I'll let you know what happens...Thanks for the reminder of no expectations(I keep expecting the worst)...