Originally, weren't you inclined to inhibit the divorce process? Are you now thinking differently? I want you to save your house and feed your H to the cats, but in a kind way.
Could you not negotiate for mediation, but face to face? Use your good humor and history to your advantage. Negotiate for as much as you can... Settle for the wreck of a house but be glad about that.
I am reading along and wishing you the best. Your H makes me laugh. He is stereotypical and hilarious.
My own is as well, except that HE is turning into a cat lady. yikes. I was recently invited to talk on the phone with his rescued cat. It is good that he has a tender heart {and kittens under his bed} but I blanched and reconsidered my 'love' while talked sweet cat talk on the phone. I did that. Now I am reconsidering my commitment to this relationship. I do have some self respect, after all. Not a lot, but a little. yeow. Oh. I meant meow.
