Kalni, no I didn't answer to Nathan. I just changed the subject. Bad, I know. But I wasn't going to break it do him driving down the highway to get allergy shots on his first day without school for the summer. Couldn't do it.
No, we don't both have to be there necessarily. But Nathan's counselor gave me a guide for parents on handling the kids during a divorce and it said the best way when possible was to have both parents there and be honest about the reason for the divorce. I will not mention the affair as it has (I think) been over for quite some time. But the reason is that Dan has made the choice, and I won't share ownership of that choice. Period.
Kerry, I offered him 50/50 last fall when this talk started and he said he wished he could but he wasn't capable. So I think it will be more like one evening a week and alternate weekends. And unless I push him to stay here some nights there won't be overnights until his house is done. Which means he needs to get moving on the house.
Tonight is just about the details and arrangements, financial decisions I will take to the lawyer, scheduling of the kids for June (hopefully a general, consistent day of the week that we will keep for long-term), and deciding when/what to tell the kids.
I re-read what we told them in January, and PER DAN, we told them that we were taking a break to figure out how to get back together again because we BOTH wanted to do that. Now I see that as total BS and it irritates me...
Anyway I want to tell them before Disney b/c I don't want Nathan expecting things or reading into things that we are taking that trip together. Dan may say that would ruin the trip but it is still 2 weeks away so if we told them this weekend there would be time to re-group. The only thing I do know is that these 3-4 'family' nights per week is going to stop. That is not what divorcing people do.
