You are right, he does not have the stones to begin the D. The past 48 hours focused more on me and stopped talking R.
But he really pissed me off today and caught me totally off guard. He was very quiet this morning and than at lunch he started crying. I asked him if everything is okay and he said "what do you think"? I told him I was his friend and was open to listening and if he needed to leave I would be okay. H said he already knew that and I did not have to say it (he sounded very annoyed). He said I knew darn well what he is thinking about - I paused and than simply told him no I don't. I offered two guesses - you may be feeling guilty about leaving (H said he has made a mess of things); or, I told him he may be having second thoughts...he told me now was not the time to talk and said we'd talk later. When I came to talk after work he announced he was going to play tennis with his buddy and left. I sucked up every bit of anger and pride and told him to have fun.
I am venting right here so I can compose myself and run a few errands. I am dreading this long weekend. I think I know the answer to my question is to ignore R and just do something else; however, I wonder if I am entitled to ask him to clarify what he meant by ("you know what I am thinking")?
I do feel as you did however, if I don't make a move soon he will just continue to stick around and if I don't talk R he is able to stay and endure the uncomfortableness. It is so frustrating.
