Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Thanks Trapt and Peace!
H is starting to mourn OW a bit today, angry, feels stupid...I'm listening. He says he has a hard time forgiving others(me), himself and asking for forgiveness. He doesn't want to feel like he's walking around with his tail between his legs...sounds like pride or maybe fear? to me..

H is making tentative steps towards me-says he's thought about moving home but isn't sure that I would want him and feels its weird that I would be able to say yes or no-...lots of fluctations with his thoughts/moods...feels like a lot of testing.

Feels like he's lost everything. Talked about sending his lawyer written notice to get his retainer back...all over the map..

H says he can understand how I have felt rejected (now that he feels rejected by OW).

I do expect some withdrawal.