I know. I am just pissed that he can't man up about it. You know, if you can walk away from your family and give up on your marriage, then say it.
"I have no desire to be with you. I want a divorce and I have no intentions of working things out."
Something like that anyway. All the wussy "I just don't know how to forgive and move on, I can't forgive myself" crap is, well, crap.
The part that hurts the most is that I DO place a high, high value on my Christian faith. That is #1 ahead of everything. And I thought he was the same. He grew up going to church, baptized, confirmed, etc etc. I didn't go to church until I was 11 and made the choice to start going with a friend since my family didn't go. So I thought I was 'behind' him on that stuff.
But the first thing my Pastor asked me was, "Why does he come to church?" And he said he had serious doubts whether Dan really knew who God was and trusted in Him. Because if he did, he could never do the things he is doing. None of us are perfect, but if you believe in the values of the Bible, you don't walk away from your wife. Even if you cheat, you repent, you change your ways, you recommit.
I think he sugarcoats it because it makes him feel better about it, that he's not being so mean to you by just telling it like it is. It's just another way he's being selfish.
As for the Church stuff - I hear you on that one. Heck my W was a Lector and Parish Council Secretary at Church. Obviously meant nothing to her.
I hope tonight goes well for you - stay strong and don't get taken advantage of.
