Mach, what's the me,me,me... meaning him, him,him... I hope you're not meaning me,me,me.... Does that make any sense at all?
Soooo So,
You have been through this for what now ? The last couple months with the crying and begging?
Yes, the Me's were about HIM, not you.
Get off the wheel and realize that actions speak louder than words. If he is REALLY interested in making an effort to make this work, Then HE needs to find a way to show you instead of talking.
To an MLC'er.....Talking = Lying
All you can do is sit back and Validate him, and watch from the sidelines.
BE the change that YOU want to see.
ANY effort to fix him will start the radio playin' again.
S, he is spinning. Sucks for him. Could get a little dizzy. You handled it perfectly. Keep on doing your thing. GAL, moving forward, and all. Let him spin away.
Yep. He didn't show at the game last night. Was pleasantly surprised b/c I didn't have to endure the pouting. S didn't know he was supposed to come anyway, so it was fine. Text at 11 last night wanting to come over. Don't think so sweetie.
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"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Conse-freakin-quences for his actions. What a mess he has made of his life, yours and your children's. Although I know you will be fine, he is circling the drain and it aint pretty.
Hey guys! Thanks for looking for me!! Never know when some crazy unbalanced mlc person might go postal.. lol. I have just been super busy with kids, ballgames, having a life, and fending off crazy mlcers.
I'm having a hard time with J. He's very needy and keeps calling/texting woe is me stuff and how he misses me stuff and how he's really on the edge and can't make it, etc. etc. He kept trying to touch me and do stuff like rub my shoulders at the ballgame last night. I don't want it and it makes me highly uncomfortable. When I get up or scoot away he is all huffy puffy like a kid.
I don't know how much of this gloom and doom talk is just trying to get sympathy and how much is truly depression. I wish I knew. I'm trying to still be gentle with him and it's not working.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Hey SO, I am glad you are ok. Got a little worried there.
Listen, you tried the gently approach. Now you need to do something different. If J is making you uncomfortable, you need to firmly let him know that it is not ok.
No way to tell what his problem is. I suspect things are not working out quite the way he planned when he started this mess. Sucks for him.
Keep moving forward, GALing and all. You are doing great!
