and a lot of people did give me sound advice. It was in the wrong context, yet sound.
What I mean is that the advice didn't take into account how messed up I was emotionally at the time. I don't think even I realized how bad it was.
The advice I got was great, it was just that I was in no position to act on it because of my own issues. I valued everyones input. Thank you Ian, Jack, 25yrsmlc, AmyC, KerryK, FIB, etc, etc,