You're doing well. Next time just send a txt back saying thanks for the pic. Don't always feel the need to call. She cant assume your there for her everytime she needs you. Dont worry about including her either. She needs to FEEL left out. Let her come to you.
It's good that you set that boundary. Hopefully, it gained respect. Just because they appear angry doesnt mean they dont respect what you're doing. Remember they are CONFUSED. You definitely don't want to ENABLE what they're doing.