WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

I just wanted to plant a seed of concern that I am getting impatient.

I think this just equals pressure to her...I think you're doing good but it's a haul man. Just remember it's a marathon not a sprint, so pace yourself.

I know it's not a sprint, but I don't want it to be a 10 year marathon. In 2 years, the divorce will be official/final. I think that's a reasonable marathon. I've told her about 6 weeks after the bomb, she had broken down crying saying how even people who have gotten divorced have gotten back together to remarry. I told her that wasn't going happen with us. If we get divorced, I would be cordial and polite, but can't imagine being friends with the woman I love knowing that I can't show her. Call it a boundary. Call it being a jerk. Call it for what you will, but that's how I felt.

I would be willing to let the marathon go longer if she would pause the divorce clock, but it is what it is. She was the one who filed.