Is there any hope or is the damage done

[bluerain]

Listen to the part of you that remembers what a good person you are... Seriously, this man walked away from his family and is now acting like his D is a coveted toy that his big brother wont let him play with, hes bouncing around from house to house, and throwing temper tantrums. Do you really think that hes worth listening to?

As long as this A, or Crisis, whatever you want to identify it as, the man is going through a crisis, you cant expect him to behave as the person you knew. Maybe someday that man will come around again, but for now, hes gone.

I absolutely would not approve of him coming back in to the marital home for his visitation, if he wants out then he wants out, and if hes not responsible enough to get his own place then he doesnt need to have her over night. I also think that its perfectly acceptable that as long as you two are still legally M, she not meet or stay at the OW's home, or the XW's. It doesnt seem that unreasonable to me. And if you see fit to be kind enough to let him put her to bed once or twice than so be it, but He is the one who walked away.