Had the talk with the youngest son (14) yesterday. So all kids are now aware of their mom's desire to re-think her life, including our M. All took it ok - daughter had some tears.
Taking the intial steps to de-couple our finances. Moving my payroll and household payments over to an individual account in my name only. Her pay will continue to go to the joint account. I'm doing this in antiipation of cell phone cut-off day. She will have the need to establish her own credit line and accounts and these moves will protect me from having her raid the bank to fund her affair.
Still feeling good about myself, my plans. Truly am believing that my W is mentally ill and needs help that I can not provide. I am slowly going dark. It's getting easier every day. Understanding that the person who I am dealing with is not the person I married helps a lot. It also allows me to be kind of angry with her, which help me move on as well. We're still being cordial with each other, talking about the plans for my daughters graduation open house next weekend. Starting to work on some summer travel plans with the kids (without W).
Still wondering about two things: Lawyering up - is now the right time? Exposure of the A - when?
