Focus on the time with kids. The courts in most states determin child support. If you convince the courts that it is in the best interest of the children to spend 1/2 the time with you then most times the child support is a simple calculation based on guidlines.
don't push for money until the custody is determined. Too many people start to use their kids as a revenue stream. As jag says focus on the kids.
I am focusing on my kids. I am not looking forward to them being gone next week. I am trying to plan a fun weekend with them for memorial day weekend.
I am not using my kids as a revenue stream. If I didn't have kids, I wouldn't even be thinking about asking for a thing from her. I'd just do my own thing.
My kids are whats important to me. I enjoy all the time I can get with them.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
getting child support from her is for THE CHILDREN...hence the name. Stop worrying that she'll respect you less if you put the money into an account for their schooling...
She'll respect you more for asserting yourself - OR SHE WON'T...WHO KNOWS? WHO CARES? At least the kids will benefit. It's not about you and it surely is not about her and what she feels or how she'll see you and blah blah blah blahblahblah....
I'm shaking my head. Kevin, you are very stubborn or...something.... Still making smirky remarks about her and the church too...like you are such a bastion of joy filled loving grace and strength....once again missing my whole religious point ...(SIGH)
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I didn't imply you were using your kids as a revenue stream. What I meant was that if you're now careful it can end up that way. People start to see money because that is what we live on.
The last thing my wife wants is full custody where she will be a single mother (cutting into the life style she wants and the stress). she also knows how close my daughter and I are and doens't want to take me ot of her life. That said the first time she saw the child support calculation she started back pedaling and threaten less time for me.
That is what I meant by make your focus the time with the kids. that is what the court will focus on if you have to go that route. the money will follow the kids based on parental income.
I think I have just lost all confidence in myself. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. And I would prefer it to be with my W.
I think I am feeling a little down today. I am starting to miss my W. I feel like I have to be this totally awesome out going guy for her to even look at me.
I feel like I have to be someone else that I am not.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I guess the best thing for me to do is just leave her alone. She blocked me again even though I was only talking to her about the girls.
I guess it wasn't necessary information though.
It sucks when someone views you as their enemy and you aren't their enemy.
Well... I have my job and my kids this week. I ordered a couple more books to study.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
