John, As always PDT is correct...I know you are hurting and will continue to hurt for some time. You have to prepare for anything now and your priority is your daughter before all else.
If your wife is willing to legally document everything and you have custody arranged how you want to make sure your daughter is raised in a morally correct environment then please consider signing quickly after a lawyer reviews. Her guilt will not last much more than a few paydays if OM is still in the picture and scheduled to leave in Oct.
Have a lawyer look at the papers...her idea of everything may not be the same as yours...is it her plan to pay child custody, continue to pay what bills she is paying until payoff, is she helping with the house note, can you remove your name from these bills? What bills has she created while separated?
I wonder what new ideas she will have Friday. Prepare yourself for anything...I know this is a shock and would recommend you cancel the Friday meeting until you are ready...do not let her get into the habit of controlling your meetings...take a week or so to think about it and you really should go see a lawyer.
If nothing else accept the papers and look at them later when she is not around. This has to be a business decision now...not an emotional one.
Now is a good time for you and your daughter to take a road trip...you have family close by? Always a good idea for D to see her grandparents.
Do not sit around depressed this long weekend...to do this rewards your W for her poor actions. It hurts right now but you have many reasons to be thankful...no matter what happens with this marriage you got an incredible daughter that loves you...not a bad reward for you. Your W will have to live with the guilt the rest of her life.
