d-day coming soon - help !

[misshim]

Trapt,

Do you think I should not let him over to hang out with us?? One week I can't get him to go home early and then the next week he is almost in a race to leave.

I told him last sunday that he had to get his stuff packed up and get it out before the divorce day. He just asked why? I just had to tell H that because when the divorce is final we need to move on. Because that is what he's asking for by divorcing me. He almost seemed hurt. I know it just killed me by saying it

I go back and forth which isn't good either on how to do all of this. He acts like he wants the divorce for sure and will not waiver. Then he acts as though he really likes being with us. (maybe just because he had no other place to go that evening - he's at his parents house and hates it)

I want to show him that I still care but afraid that will push him away. Then again what do I have to lose?? Then on the other side I feel like maybe I need to get tougher. By telling him to finally get his stuff out. He left end of november 2008 and still has all his stuff at our house. (he went from 48" waist to now a 38") so he doesn't need his clothes that are in his dresser. Funny how once in a blue moon he'll take a shower at the house and go in his bathroom cupboard and put on his cologne and he puts it back in. I told him one time, just take it with you, I don't wear that kind !! He just smiled and left it there. Why !!!

What do you think I'm supposed to do??? Be nice and sweet and upbeat or straight facts (get your things out of house, no more hanging?)

Any suggestions