It was almost time to leave for dinner and she asked where we were going. I told her "to a restaurant" she said she is not changing, and I told her no need to it's not fancy. There is an India restaurant and the Chinese restaurant right next to each other. When we got there She said "well we are either having Indian food or Chinese. I said Chinese. She then said. I was kind of hoping to go to the blue(something) restaurant but this is OK. Now David C. has said that when women do this they want US to make a decision. They want us to be the alpha male. SO I told her we will go here and next Saturday we can go there. She said Saturday son gets back from camp and he will not want to go anywhere. So I left it at that... So when we got inside she said "the food smells great" And we sat down. Usually in the past we decide together what we are going to get. But this time when I sat down I said "I never have had hot sake, I am going to order some. I then asked "will you have some? she said "I have had it before but it has been a long time, I will have a sip of yours." So she then picked something from the menu and said. "OK Now you pick something" OK here again she is testing my decisiveness. NORMALLY I would have said. " I really don't care go ahead and pick something" but not this time I picked a dish. So when they brought the sake out the waitress asked if we wanted two cups or one. Wife spoke up and said TWO.. So her sip turned into splitting half the bottle... During dinner she asked a little about how my work was going and then started telling me how she was upset last night and could not sleep because of who won the dancing with the stars show. Now I do not watch this stuff but I listened. she went on and on. Very talkative..Another thing that I am working on is that David C. has said that allot of time when women come to you with their problems they really don't want you to "fix" them. They just want you to hear them. (Unless they come right out and say can you fix this) so I have been "listening" allot. I have watched her struggle with somethings and have kept my mouth shut.but she knows I am there and if she needed my help all she had to do was ask..( I did ask a few times saying "Do you need any help" instead of just saying "give it here I'll do it" and she said No thank you I can do it. Anyway back to dinner. so we really had a good time. After dinner wife has been excited about a new store that had opened up and I have not been to. So I said lets go by there and you can show me around. So we went and it was like she was showing me a new house or something. Throughout the tour I did put my arm around her a few times and rubbed her back... So when we got home and pulled into the garage. I pulled her to me and gave her a kiss. I then said that was not a good kiss and gave her anther. she then said " the high beams are on" so I rubbed her breast and she laughed and said what are you doing? I said "you said the high beams are on" she laughed and said "the cars high beams you are wacko" and got out of the car laughing. By the time I got into the house she was on the phone talking to her sister about dancing with the stars. SOOOO No there was no Mad passionate sex but....... A year ago when I mentioned something about getting a look at her breast she had a fit. So got so pissed if she had a club she would have hit me with it. THIS TIME I TOUCHED IT .
I did not pout that she did not jump at my advancement and instead went in to talk to her sister. I just went about my business the rest of the night. BUT... something new did accrue. Since she had moved out if our room she has been getting ready for bed (washing her face, brushing her teeth) in the hall bathroom. LAST night she did this in our bathroom. My plan now is to take her to the restaurant she suggested this Friday and see how much farther I can go without getting rejected. I know that OT thinks I should just jump her bones. But part of wife's problems are that she is afraid if we did so "something" I would get all clinging again. She has been avoiding sending any wrong signals.From what I have been reading it is kind of like a dance at this point. She willingly went to dinner with me (maybe to see if I would talk R or not and I did not so she was ok with that) when we got home I "copped a feel" to see is she got pissed again or was receptive and she was. she then when into the house to see If I would pursue her and I did not. She then came into OUR bathroom and got ready for bed (with the door shut) . and I still acted like I was ok with it and I was not expecting anything. So I think if I can keep up the little sexual jokes and here and there contact I will be building up some "tension" in wife and hopefully Friday she and I will cut loose.
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
