In my case the ow is not a bad person, she has just made bad choices in her life. She treats my children with kindness and they really like her. It was hard to accept that at first. But as a mother I prefer my kids being happy and feeling loved and secured, to torturing them about the morality of it all. You know, kids are smart....they KNOW anyway...and when they are older, they will certainly have their opinions about this all, as they do now sometimes allready... I don't see ow as being part of the rest of H's life. Therefore, she will only play a small part in my childrens' life, and if she is kind and friendly to them, then the better off my kids are.
However, I do not approve of the ow's choices...this is the reason we could not be friends one day. She played a part in the destruction om my marriage and family and even though I have forgiven her...I will not forget.
Peace,....it is all hard, and it all takes time, lots and lots of time...but one day something miraculous seems to happen...we let go. Truly let go...the one thing we had wanted to do for so long, but couldn't achieve...just happens...and it is truly a breath of fresh air !!!
If you still have any questions or don't understand what I mean to say, please let me know, I will try to answer them as good as I can !
take care !!! xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
