I really can't figure this out and any and all input would be appreciated.
Don't waste energy and time trying to figure her out. What control do you have? You spent how much time worrying about getting the D papers at dinner and it didn't happen. Know that you are being watched. You can control your thoughts, feelings and actions. Your choice - try to figure her out and all her moves or work on yourself. Do what is healthy and the most productive for you. You can handle it. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.