I know you're getting impatient, but you CAN'T. Remember this is how she felt ALL those YEARS while you were supposedly NEGLECTING her. I can't remember was she a SAHM? If so that can add to the RESENTMENT. She DOESN'T BELIEVE these changes are REAL. She like most WAW believe a tiger can't change his stripes. Which for many is true. That is why you NEED to use this time to work on YOU. And YOU are doing a good job of that. Keep on making TIME for YOU. Hang out with old friends. Take up some new hobbies. The more new things you do the more she will BELIEVE that these changes are real. If your changes are only RELATED to HER then she will not. Forget about the lunches for now. She's not ready. She would just be appeasing you. She is seeing what she needs to see when she is around you and the boys.
Yoy have to stay PATIENT and give her TIME and SPACE. I see cracks in her wall. But it takes time. A drop in the bucket of your lives together so quit focusing on the day to day stuff. Look at what your doing as an investment. Building the "pipeline". You're in business you know what im talking about. Think Ray Kroc and only getting a .05 for every burger at first. Keep on planting the seeds of doubt. You're making up for LOST TIME.
Like Michelle says in her book. You're goal is not to convince her to come back. It's about planting a seed of doubt in her mind that she might be making a mistake in leaving. You are doing that my friend. Keep it up. I think she is getting close to opening that door again.
