Sorry you're having a rough week. I think this whole thing is a process: I was in shock, then sad, had an angry phase, now I'm finally feeling a little more detached, but I'm still working on that.
I do think it's important to put yourself higher on the priority list. I always used to put myself last, but my kids actually appreciate I'm doing stuff for myself; they say I'm happier and more fun now. Your IC sounds very wise.
Yes, your H may or may not come back. But you knew that. If he never learns to appreciate how wonderful you are, then you will find someone that does!!!
