WDID, I think you're spot on with your comment that she's holding back because she wants to remain in control. I think she feels like if she tells me she loves me (which seemed obvious from the smile on her face in the pool) that things will return to what she considered bad in our marriage. I think she likes it where it is now because, in her mind, she can do what ever she wants and I won't say anything because I still love her and want to make the marriage work. If she tells me she loves me and would put her wedding rings back on, she loses that control.
I feel like she also knows that if she makes a commitment to the marriage she'll have to consider my feelings in things, and right now she's enjoying me doing all the work and her not having to put any effort into the marriage.
Right now, I'm not afraid there's anyone else, but I do think she's in a vulnerable position where if the right person came along she'd fall, hook, line and sinker. But that would almost be easier for me cause I'd be visiting a lawyer as soon as I could get an appointment.
I agree with the communications thing. Just need the time to be right to do it. Got a long weekend coming up and I'm sure S17 will be gone alot, so the opportunity might arise.
Hope.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
