Yes, I am SC, and I am so very proud of you. I know that must not have been easy, but I do think that all those things needed to be said.
You never know what the future holds. Continue to deal with your H with grace (but also with an atty!) and civility, as this (your exit) is a great opportunity for you to exhibit the class, grace and integrity that you never got in return from him thru all of this.
Be the better person.
I know this is a pro-marriage board, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to protect yourself -- legally, financially and emotionally. God does permit divorce in cases of adultery, and even Jesus, when He forgave the adulteress, told her to "go and sin no more." Your husband has been totally unrepentant, and at some point, continuing to put up with it/him as your husband begins to reflect on you and your own values.
I think you did the right thing.
I cheer you again today, even as I mourn your marriage with you.
